I'm not pretty but i like myself,,,,

I never really care before about beauty, pretty and all those girl things before... i don't til yesterday one of my friend knocked me with these things..

"wei, u are a woman, but u don't put make up, barely dress up... ur husband will turn his face in the next 5 years if u keep doing like that..."

not a harsh statement, yet it punched me down.. make me wonder.......

okay, let's say ...most girls put make up, do hair treatment, facial, manicure, pedicure regularly, what else.. aaah dress pretty most of time.. having super expensive bags (or addicted to branded bags)..LV..channel..prada...

well.. nothing is wrong with that.., but then why i don't have even one of those criteria... or maybe i am different,,,

i'm not hypocrite... i like being pretty, or i try to look pretty... and pretty beauty is "a must word" for every woman... of course i did some facial, hair treatment before, i put make up in special occasion..however, i can count it with my hands , meaning, i barely do it...plus i dont have expensive bags...lol..

the fact is, (and i'm sure people know it), i dress casual with sneakers.. i dont put make up (i just hv lipstick, lipgloss and blush on)..i dont have foundation,,, sounds so poor...my hair is straight, not colored anymore since Tony doesnt let me,, i am far far far away from those hot chicks....

then what? do i feel ashamed? naaah, not really... i know i am so plain... but looking at those girls in the street.. i realize i am not the only one.. the percentage is 70 percents for those hot chicks with hot appearance, but counting the other ordinary 30 percentages will make u feel better..

but hey again, i am not hypocrite.. i admire those pretty girls.. i always enjoy looking and investigating those pretty girls in the street. what are they wearing, their face and their appearance... i love them.. just, i cant be one of them..uups.. not because i can not.. but because i don't want.. money can buy those things to make ourselves prettier... i cant pictured my self wearing sweet gown, high heels, full of make up everyday, or Lv bags is hanging on my shoulder... the thing is i am awei...

maybe u will never agree with me, but u might agree with ur own experience where u try so hard to be as perfect or as pretty as u can just for making someone like u or be aware of u... i did too..in my past... as a young girl, who never wants to get attention from a group of guys... u even cant stop smiling if u know someone check you out.. that's true...

again, have u ever noticed that some girls try too hard to be someone's expectation instead of her own's.. she is not wrong, again i was too... every girl has their period of times being someone else... though my period had gone long long time a go...

everyone says, inner beauty is more important than outer one... i agree with it.. everyone agrees.. however, we all just can not get out from outer beauty.... ask ur guy friend, they will agree that they get into girl from their appearance.. so where is inner beauty role in this scenario... wait, inner beauty takes main role eventually...

no matter how pretty we are, without good heart and good manner, eventually all guys will kick u off... not only guy, let's say girl to girl conversation... hundred times u will hear someone saying.." she is pretty, hot, and so cute, but.... she is...blah blah..blah...bad words come from their mouth..." rather than that i like to hear someone saying, hey i know she is just average, but she is really kind, she is prettier day by days.....

which one will u prefer to be...??

i am not saying pretty and hot chicks always act bitchy, yet i know some which is really pretty and they are not as pretty as their face. life is not that perfect, it's rarely to have pretty face and pretty heart. hence, i have couple of friends who have those two.. inner and outer beauty. again, what i learnt from them is, their inner dominates outer, they have a good looking face, more than average, but their manner and behavior are wow.... by looking at them, u will admire them..

i always believe there is no, not even one UGLY girl in this world.. they all can be pretty as technology has improved much... i always believe the power of inner is greater than anything... of course i dont want just dressing with shirt fulled of hole, messy hair, bad breath or even yellow teeth... that's outlier from this scenario.. i am saying about average girl who is simple, ordinary, and natural who sometimes feel not confidence about themselves... i always believe we all pretty by what we do, talk, think and behave... as my friend quoted, beauty is relative, depends on whom thinking....

i have heaaaapsssss of pretty friends innerly... that makes me love them so much.. i dont really care about what bag are they wearing, what dress or even they just a nerdy one, i love them all... for me, they show me what they really are, not covered by any foundation, they just what they are and that makes them beautiful...

as myself, i never count myself as a pretty one... i always appreciate when my husband reckon i am the prettiest one for him, cos thats true. what makes u r pretty for those people whom u love and love u, is what u really are, ur inner, and definitely ur appearance contributes...

as long as u feel good with ur dressing style, no matter which style u like.. u are pretty...

in a way, i always consider myself as a natural one.. yes sometimes i can loose my confidence a lot, but when the one u love smile at u and say u always be the prettiest in their heart, u will know what i mean...

back to my friend statement,,, to sum up.. i replied well yes i know i am plain and too ordinary..but i am proud to being myself...

so people, proud of urself...u are pretty in my eyes....