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Tuesday, April 19, 2011
about good,,,
doing good things are not always going that well.. somehow, it just happens to be even worse....
i always think about what have i done? have i done good enough to be a person... i can say i am not a cold blood person, i am easily touched and cried when i meet sad situations.. however, to pronounce myself as a kind people, i think its too exagegriate....
but one thing i always know is, doing good things are important..it is absolutely taught by all religion in a world... its also bring u somehow positive energy... and doing good things do not mean by being a monk, or a priest, nor asking us to save the world... i always believe that in all human being kind,whether or not we are perfect, we always have a small part to contribute good things...
doing small things which is good seems to be easy.. let me break briefly, as a student we can do simply being a good student, dont cheat or too much lazy, try to respect our teacher as much as we can (know sometimes its hard), help our classmate who need our help and so on and on...
as a child, the simplist things are by loving our family, respect our parents, dont let our parents worry about us, do or help some house work without they ask us to, or even give our parents a massage... that is such a basic thing that we should do...
as a friend, we can always positively support them, dont take too much advantage from our friend..and so on and so on...
as a workmate, we can always help each other to get the goal, we support each other, work as a team and respect every of them (esp, junior) as equal...
but what as a human, as a individual...
lots lots of things we can always do,, i know sometimes, we're just being lazy to step out from our comfort zone...
my mum always teach me some theory about goodness...
believe it or not,,,
by doing good things or even think of positive will give us positive aura, which is in a long term it build our character and our wisdom...
by doing good it can reduce our karma, not entirely clear our karma, but it prevents bad karma / bad things happen to us... which i always believe, somehow, we are blessed from something tht we dont want to...
by doing good actually is a medicine of stress and problems. doing good comes from good mind, positive thinking.. therefore, it somehow lessen your stress and you can control your feeling to be happy...
doing good is an universal language for all human being, we dont have to interact by language with some strangers.. just smile, respect and be polite, automatically we all are friend..
forgiveness is one kind of goodness,, do u know by forgiving other people, we actually forgive ourselves.. try it, i cant tell u how it works, it has to be practical then u will understand what it means...
and last, for people like me, doing good is for fulfilling my "ego".. its a bit weird but my theory is i feel happy when i see people surround me happy. then if i help people, people will be happy and i will be happier than ever...
despite of all, even we have positive attitude to do, things are not always going as well as we hope to...
i believe u guys ever had some sort of experience like, working so hard but got blamed, tried to be neutral among friends who argued, ended up they fight each other, or when u already sacrifise ur time, energy and job, things getting even worse... and so on so on...
well, again, i believe there is always another way for us to be better.. maybe yes, i was rejected for being good, it doesnt mean anytime anywhere i will be the same. perhaps, its just not in a right time to do good... a bit disappointed sometimes, yet it gives me more things to learn...
here i share some quotations which i like, i hope u enjoy,,,^^
"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."
— Mother Teresa
"When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it...always."
— Mohandas K. Gandhi
"A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special."
— Nelson Mandela
"It's the action, not the fruit of the action, that's important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there'll be any fruit. But that doesn't mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result."
— Mohandas K. Gandhi
"You are protected, in short, by your ability to love"
— J.K. Rowling
"When someone has been mean to you, why would you want to be good to them?' 'You wouldn't want to. That's what makes it hard. You do it anyway. Being good is hard. Much harder than being bad..
— Jeanne DuPrau
"The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple."
— Deb Caletti
"I smiled back and I thought
how incredible that was, that they would find the time to smile. There was goodness in the world still, even if you couldn’t always see it."
— Jenny Valentine
"But goodness alone is never enough. A hard, cold wisdom is required for goodness to accomplish good. Goodness without wisdom always accomplishes evil."
— Robert A. Heinlein
"Treat other people's home as you want them to respect yours because what goes around comes around."
— Ana Monnar
i always think about what have i done? have i done good enough to be a person... i can say i am not a cold blood person, i am easily touched and cried when i meet sad situations.. however, to pronounce myself as a kind people, i think its too exagegriate....
but one thing i always know is, doing good things are important..it is absolutely taught by all religion in a world... its also bring u somehow positive energy... and doing good things do not mean by being a monk, or a priest, nor asking us to save the world... i always believe that in all human being kind,whether or not we are perfect, we always have a small part to contribute good things...
doing small things which is good seems to be easy.. let me break briefly, as a student we can do simply being a good student, dont cheat or too much lazy, try to respect our teacher as much as we can (know sometimes its hard), help our classmate who need our help and so on and on...
as a child, the simplist things are by loving our family, respect our parents, dont let our parents worry about us, do or help some house work without they ask us to, or even give our parents a massage... that is such a basic thing that we should do...
as a friend, we can always positively support them, dont take too much advantage from our friend..and so on and so on...
as a workmate, we can always help each other to get the goal, we support each other, work as a team and respect every of them (esp, junior) as equal...
but what as a human, as a individual...
lots lots of things we can always do,, i know sometimes, we're just being lazy to step out from our comfort zone...
my mum always teach me some theory about goodness...
believe it or not,,,
by doing good things or even think of positive will give us positive aura, which is in a long term it build our character and our wisdom...
by doing good it can reduce our karma, not entirely clear our karma, but it prevents bad karma / bad things happen to us... which i always believe, somehow, we are blessed from something tht we dont want to...
by doing good actually is a medicine of stress and problems. doing good comes from good mind, positive thinking.. therefore, it somehow lessen your stress and you can control your feeling to be happy...
doing good is an universal language for all human being, we dont have to interact by language with some strangers.. just smile, respect and be polite, automatically we all are friend..
forgiveness is one kind of goodness,, do u know by forgiving other people, we actually forgive ourselves.. try it, i cant tell u how it works, it has to be practical then u will understand what it means...
and last, for people like me, doing good is for fulfilling my "ego".. its a bit weird but my theory is i feel happy when i see people surround me happy. then if i help people, people will be happy and i will be happier than ever...
despite of all, even we have positive attitude to do, things are not always going as well as we hope to...
i believe u guys ever had some sort of experience like, working so hard but got blamed, tried to be neutral among friends who argued, ended up they fight each other, or when u already sacrifise ur time, energy and job, things getting even worse... and so on so on...
well, again, i believe there is always another way for us to be better.. maybe yes, i was rejected for being good, it doesnt mean anytime anywhere i will be the same. perhaps, its just not in a right time to do good... a bit disappointed sometimes, yet it gives me more things to learn...
here i share some quotations which i like, i hope u enjoy,,,^^
"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."
— Mother Teresa
"When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it...always."
— Mohandas K. Gandhi
"A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special."
— Nelson Mandela
"It's the action, not the fruit of the action, that's important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there'll be any fruit. But that doesn't mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result."
— Mohandas K. Gandhi
"You are protected, in short, by your ability to love"
— J.K. Rowling
"When someone has been mean to you, why would you want to be good to them?' 'You wouldn't want to. That's what makes it hard. You do it anyway. Being good is hard. Much harder than being bad..
— Jeanne DuPrau
"The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple."
— Deb Caletti
"I smiled back and I thought
how incredible that was, that they would find the time to smile. There was goodness in the world still, even if you couldn’t always see it."
— Jenny Valentine
"But goodness alone is never enough. A hard, cold wisdom is required for goodness to accomplish good. Goodness without wisdom always accomplishes evil."
— Robert A. Heinlein
"Treat other people's home as you want them to respect yours because what goes around comes around."
— Ana Monnar
Thursday, February 17, 2011
alone,,
There's always be a moment when u feel empty and seems like u loose ur energy, u don't feel like doing anything, everything surrounds u doesnt interest u at all, u start to think the worst scenario, and u let ur feeling control ur day...
i call it Moody and Lonely
and I hate it,,,,
as a girl, i am very sensitive person. u can tell by my zodiac, i'm cancer. a very moody person, and complicated...
i can say there will be 2-5 days in a month (exactly on PMS time) i turn out to be such a cry baby, crying without any reason, need extra attention from my husband and let my mood control my day... do i like it? Nope, in fact i hate it...
I always wonder is there anyone who get exactly the same symptomps like i have? instead of being grumpy, i am moody and more like pathetic,,,
when i get moody, i feel lonely... i still remember back then when i was teenager, i rather spent whole days locked myself in my room, doin nothing,,, I didnt talk, i didnt show my feelin to everyone at home and all i did just being lazy around, jazz songs and, drowning myself to tears..
I don't know why it happens so bad to me,,,
the fact is i am very positive person. most of the time.
but when i feel lonely, i like to put all the blames on my shoulder, and i start to cry like a baby, wishing someone comes and helps me, no one ever did though, not until now (my husband is the only one who get me)....
I always think, no one ever understand me, my habit, my "sickness" and even myself....
let me think about short description about lonely in my version,,,
lonely is a situation where u are not longer in a same condition u've had before, it slightly change and it moves ur feeling from "many" to "any",
and or when u feel u stand alone with or without people existing surround u...
a friend of mine, we have been working together for almost a year, one day i saw him and i could feel his emptiness at work, then i asked him, are u ok? he said he was ok, he was fine, but he just feel something different. I said, is it emptiness? then he said it was more like lonely.
I found lonely is deeper than emptiness. and i surely know why he said that. our workplace has been no longer fun like it used to. I know people always come and go, this time everyone seems letting go...
he felt everyone is leavin and even himself, therefore it affects everyone who cares of this small team. well i do too, i feel its not as fun as we used to be, no, Its Not fun anymore. most of my work mate loose their spirit to work, due to the managers problems and so on. They work like a corpse, sometimes they complaint (they barely complaint before) and It all affects me, I FEEL SO MUCH LONELY when i am not working with them.
this is the first description of my loneliness
i always remind myself after, no matter how low i feel or how moody i am, The fact is I am not alone. It is true... and when u feel u are alone, u are not indeed..... we have people whom love us sincerely.
I have my husband who always support me, no matter how busy he is, how tired he is after work, or how moody i am, i always know he is my loneliness' cure. Sometimes i dont want to let him know how sad i am, but i realized i was wrong, by letting him know, i feel better, cos i need his attention to pull me out from my "ownworld".. he knows that all i need is someone to simply sit beside me, hug me, and he doesnt have to say anything, because he is the only one i need...
or eventhough u are out of the town, u are overseas and u miss ur family and ur hometown, yes it is, we feel really alone...physiccaly, we are apart, but blood and love bond us with our parents. I always call my mum when i feel home sick or moody, i just need to heard her voice and i will feel better.... u dont have to let ur mum or ur dad knows how sad u are or how alone u are, cos they know it, they can feel it... thats the power of Mum and dad. Maybe some of us do not know about it, But do u know ur parents miss u more than we miss them, since we are part of their blood and soul.....
and also, nobody can replace ur best friend place,,, trust me, u feel much better knowing they care about u,,, They maybe not as close as our lover or parents or family, However, they save our life lots of time.
when u feel alone overseas, friends are forever, they fill ur life, they make the day brighter, and they help u for no reason...
Lonely and Moody are my friend,, they come often in my days, Nevertheless i have the real life here.. i always say to myself, its ok to let myself being weirdo for days, but i have to always remember, life is too way short for being a loner, cos we are not alone,,,
Thursday, February 3, 2011
I love my Job
Gimme some story about work, work, and work,,,,
i believe u will give me more than i want to know...
i am myself (i have to admit) a very workaholic person.. I rather to finish all the things which has to be done, even i have to stay back and unpaid... yeah thats me,,, and i am pretty sure one of u, is exactly same with me,,,
but what about workplace it self... ur boss? ur workmates? ur salary? ur job? and ur environment?? do u like it? do u like ur job? or u just have to work for money.
ok, before we think about all of that, im gonna share a bit of mine,,,
at the moment, i work in restaurant (yeah, still)... i work everything i can, not being greedy, but i have to, since i have been working for long period, therefore it forces me to do it...but I enjoy it. I like my job. i prefer to work with a good environment though my salary is not much, rather than getting more money, but the workplace is depressing.
I know in my culture, parents hope their children to get office job,or being professional such as doctor , architect, etc and say BIG NO to HOspitality and Tourism.. They think office job is cool and hospitality job is low level, which is partly true in my country. Most people think we dont have to get high education to do hospitality, and since they spent much on our education we better shut our fuck up and do what they want us to do. am i right? or am i being too harsh?? lol...uups, im sorry, i didnt mean too, but this is what i called common point of view of my country men,,,,
I have to say My Dad was one of them. He expected me and my siblings to work "properly". and when i finished my "MAster" degree, that burden is high even more. i know my Dad paid so much for my education, and all i still do just what? working in restaurant? i know my Dad must be so upset if i say i still want to work in restaurant..i surely know he expects me to do accounting, or at least an office job. so the question is : do i???
I almost do.. I found an office job,it was part time job, a small office job i must say, doing like customer service and admin job, and i was accepted.. I just need to move my ass and come to work on the day i should come on.... However, I Rejected, I was kinda like not coming on that day. i know it sounds so crazy and stupid...i dont know as well, I am very stupid and crazy.... The fact is, looking for office job is very hard in Sydney, cos we are overseas student, english is average and no experience. I am not saying i am good or i feel cocky cos i just refused a job, NO, its not that. It just because i am still looking for my dream job that i want to do,,,, a job relates to service, hospitality and also communication. eventually i found it.
That interview just happened a day before the day i supposed to come to work in office. I knew i got a job, and i shouldnt come for any interview, yet i did.. it was a woman voice called me for interview, and she sounds so honest and kind. i decided yes i would come, and i came...
This job is similar like i do at the moment, hospitality. A cafe or catering job i guess. The thing is, as i step on the building (the cafe is inside the big building), somehow i feel so good. and when i met her (the manager), she reminds me of my previous boss in Indo when i was teaching. the whole things about the job, the place and herself, for some reason, i just feel it right. I know i cant say or i cant decide whether the job is the right job for me or not, but i am very " feeling" person. I follow my feeling and at the end i take this job. I havent started yet, so i cant tell u what exactly will happen... But the job itself is interesting, its like i will be the one who in charge for function catering for every meeting, and if there is no function i help in the cafe. I work in service area, in cafe, i can use my communication skill and also my management skill ( my customer will be TOP person) and The good things are (NOTED FOR MY DAD), i dont have to sweep the floor, wash dishes, or clean the cafe... which is Good.. at least i feel one step higher than what i do at the moment. My Mum support what i have done, she knows what exactly make me happy. and that is very important..
I just know, I am very loyal person, i am willing to workhard as long as i like the job and i always follow my feeling. and i do it...any kind of job is not important, the thing is i am HAPPY and i LOVE my JOB... all job that i ha before, i always love it. i love when i was working in pre school the most. that was my first best job...
In spite of my story, do you know there are so many good and bad stories in workplace??
we can always see some people work really hard, some are lazy. some are so loyal and reliable, and some are just so dodgy. though i am pretty young, but i experience not little... i saw heaps of people tried to butter the boss up and down, or even talk bad bout their workmates behind and pretend to be nice in front of them... i saw people argue each other and being stubborn.. being so arrogant, feeling so seniority and act not proffesional at work. some people are bludging too much.. and some managers are shit... are these people exist in your work life??
Hey, i am not judging okay.. everyone has their own bad habit, me either... i am so clean freak and clumsy and i think my workmates think im crazy. i think it is okay since everyone had mistakes,,,, we dont have to be ashamed as long as we know and we try to be better,,,
then again, sometimes i just think, why people so bother to spot other's mistakes and weakness?? why??? dont they think we all do the same, i mean we all have weaknesses and mistakes...
Again, For your information, I am not Hypocrite... I sometimes talk gossip and talk bad about people, and i admit, sometimes i am stubborn, i dont like being complaint in public... see... i admit my weakness (which i believe whoever has been working with me, they will b agree), its not a big deal.. i did mistakes, but the thing is I STILL LOve my job. I love my workmates... even sometimes i talk gossip, for GOd sake it was not completely bad one... i am type of person who will not being straightforward at work, but i always be fair. I will tell that person and of course i think i still hv the right to gossip...lol..
sometimes it just funny when people try to kick down someone by telling to everyone their mistakes... i mean cmon, we all do mistake... dont sweat such a shit thing... if people kept doing it all the time, this whole work team work bullshit thing will never ever work out... cant people just shout the mouth for a second... or if u dont like them or u know they make mistakes, STRAIGHT AWAY tell them their problems,, easy??? yes it is if u can put it in a right sentence..
and also sometimes there are some people like to order their juniors to do this and that. I mean, yes sometimes it is good when u show your leadership by doing it as well.. am i right...
which do u prefer? your manager working hard, leading u by good example or the one who always give u an order while they just sit down doing nothing but bludging.....
i can say, proudly i guess, my husband is one of good leader example, he is a type of leader who works very hard, barely order people, and get respects from all of us. It is simple, we all can do, u, me, and everyone. just work hard, show ur potentials, and people will respect u by what u do, not what u say.... plus, its not easy to find a good boss...
there are so many problems at workplace, but i want to make a conclusion...
I dont know what is yours, but mine is,,
i always love my jobs (previous and recent job) because me and my workmates are getting really well. our manager are the best, we help each other, and the most important thing is we all love our job, and we happy, therefore we create a good environment. yes we still do mistake and tease each other, but that doesnt matter, as long as we always working hard, be humble, love what u do right now and working as a team... I think that is everyone's dream job...
so, do u find your job? the job that u want to do? have u done anything for your work??? lets keep fighting and LOve your job...
i believe u will give me more than i want to know...
i am myself (i have to admit) a very workaholic person.. I rather to finish all the things which has to be done, even i have to stay back and unpaid... yeah thats me,,, and i am pretty sure one of u, is exactly same with me,,,
but what about workplace it self... ur boss? ur workmates? ur salary? ur job? and ur environment?? do u like it? do u like ur job? or u just have to work for money.
ok, before we think about all of that, im gonna share a bit of mine,,,
at the moment, i work in restaurant (yeah, still)... i work everything i can, not being greedy, but i have to, since i have been working for long period, therefore it forces me to do it...but I enjoy it. I like my job. i prefer to work with a good environment though my salary is not much, rather than getting more money, but the workplace is depressing.
I know in my culture, parents hope their children to get office job,or being professional such as doctor , architect, etc and say BIG NO to HOspitality and Tourism.. They think office job is cool and hospitality job is low level, which is partly true in my country. Most people think we dont have to get high education to do hospitality, and since they spent much on our education we better shut our fuck up and do what they want us to do. am i right? or am i being too harsh?? lol...uups, im sorry, i didnt mean too, but this is what i called common point of view of my country men,,,,
I have to say My Dad was one of them. He expected me and my siblings to work "properly". and when i finished my "MAster" degree, that burden is high even more. i know my Dad paid so much for my education, and all i still do just what? working in restaurant? i know my Dad must be so upset if i say i still want to work in restaurant..i surely know he expects me to do accounting, or at least an office job. so the question is : do i???
I almost do.. I found an office job,it was part time job, a small office job i must say, doing like customer service and admin job, and i was accepted.. I just need to move my ass and come to work on the day i should come on.... However, I Rejected, I was kinda like not coming on that day. i know it sounds so crazy and stupid...i dont know as well, I am very stupid and crazy.... The fact is, looking for office job is very hard in Sydney, cos we are overseas student, english is average and no experience. I am not saying i am good or i feel cocky cos i just refused a job, NO, its not that. It just because i am still looking for my dream job that i want to do,,,, a job relates to service, hospitality and also communication. eventually i found it.
That interview just happened a day before the day i supposed to come to work in office. I knew i got a job, and i shouldnt come for any interview, yet i did.. it was a woman voice called me for interview, and she sounds so honest and kind. i decided yes i would come, and i came...
This job is similar like i do at the moment, hospitality. A cafe or catering job i guess. The thing is, as i step on the building (the cafe is inside the big building), somehow i feel so good. and when i met her (the manager), she reminds me of my previous boss in Indo when i was teaching. the whole things about the job, the place and herself, for some reason, i just feel it right. I know i cant say or i cant decide whether the job is the right job for me or not, but i am very " feeling" person. I follow my feeling and at the end i take this job. I havent started yet, so i cant tell u what exactly will happen... But the job itself is interesting, its like i will be the one who in charge for function catering for every meeting, and if there is no function i help in the cafe. I work in service area, in cafe, i can use my communication skill and also my management skill ( my customer will be TOP person) and The good things are (NOTED FOR MY DAD), i dont have to sweep the floor, wash dishes, or clean the cafe... which is Good.. at least i feel one step higher than what i do at the moment. My Mum support what i have done, she knows what exactly make me happy. and that is very important..
I just know, I am very loyal person, i am willing to workhard as long as i like the job and i always follow my feeling. and i do it...any kind of job is not important, the thing is i am HAPPY and i LOVE my JOB... all job that i ha before, i always love it. i love when i was working in pre school the most. that was my first best job...
In spite of my story, do you know there are so many good and bad stories in workplace??
we can always see some people work really hard, some are lazy. some are so loyal and reliable, and some are just so dodgy. though i am pretty young, but i experience not little... i saw heaps of people tried to butter the boss up and down, or even talk bad bout their workmates behind and pretend to be nice in front of them... i saw people argue each other and being stubborn.. being so arrogant, feeling so seniority and act not proffesional at work. some people are bludging too much.. and some managers are shit... are these people exist in your work life??
Hey, i am not judging okay.. everyone has their own bad habit, me either... i am so clean freak and clumsy and i think my workmates think im crazy. i think it is okay since everyone had mistakes,,,, we dont have to be ashamed as long as we know and we try to be better,,,
then again, sometimes i just think, why people so bother to spot other's mistakes and weakness?? why??? dont they think we all do the same, i mean we all have weaknesses and mistakes...
Again, For your information, I am not Hypocrite... I sometimes talk gossip and talk bad about people, and i admit, sometimes i am stubborn, i dont like being complaint in public... see... i admit my weakness (which i believe whoever has been working with me, they will b agree), its not a big deal.. i did mistakes, but the thing is I STILL LOve my job. I love my workmates... even sometimes i talk gossip, for GOd sake it was not completely bad one... i am type of person who will not being straightforward at work, but i always be fair. I will tell that person and of course i think i still hv the right to gossip...lol..
sometimes it just funny when people try to kick down someone by telling to everyone their mistakes... i mean cmon, we all do mistake... dont sweat such a shit thing... if people kept doing it all the time, this whole work team work bullshit thing will never ever work out... cant people just shout the mouth for a second... or if u dont like them or u know they make mistakes, STRAIGHT AWAY tell them their problems,, easy??? yes it is if u can put it in a right sentence..
and also sometimes there are some people like to order their juniors to do this and that. I mean, yes sometimes it is good when u show your leadership by doing it as well.. am i right...
which do u prefer? your manager working hard, leading u by good example or the one who always give u an order while they just sit down doing nothing but bludging.....
i can say, proudly i guess, my husband is one of good leader example, he is a type of leader who works very hard, barely order people, and get respects from all of us. It is simple, we all can do, u, me, and everyone. just work hard, show ur potentials, and people will respect u by what u do, not what u say.... plus, its not easy to find a good boss...
there are so many problems at workplace, but i want to make a conclusion...
I dont know what is yours, but mine is,,
i always love my jobs (previous and recent job) because me and my workmates are getting really well. our manager are the best, we help each other, and the most important thing is we all love our job, and we happy, therefore we create a good environment. yes we still do mistake and tease each other, but that doesnt matter, as long as we always working hard, be humble, love what u do right now and working as a team... I think that is everyone's dream job...
so, do u find your job? the job that u want to do? have u done anything for your work??? lets keep fighting and LOve your job...
Monday, December 6, 2010
Simply "Fate"
I'm counting the days to my D day,,,, FYI, i am going back soon to my country and i am having a wedding reception, exactly 10 more days from today... so here am i,,, counting the days,,,
lots of my friends in Jakarta are questioning my wedding news..well, i hope in a good way,,, not much of them know exactly how my love story is... i cant blame them, when they were like " aaah,awei how come she get married so quick, or long time not hear from u and suddenly i got ur wedding news, and so on and so on"...
even my best friends backhome are wondering how could "an awei" end up so young to marriage life? well, i can't blame them for being sarcastic, assuming i was not so "ready to get married type of person"...
ok guys, i am not here trying to explain or expose my love life...
i am ok with such lots of question from them... the thing is they are my friends and i do believe they are happy for me as i do.. and it makes sense when they are thousand miles away from me.... i don't expect we always contact each other and know what's new about them..
however, i do want to tell a bit of my happiness news for them..and im proudly say i am getting married (in fact i am already legally)... and I'm very happy...
i believe most of my friends still remember the old me, a young girl who talk less about love, marriage and having a baby... that's true... i admit it... i've never pictured myself tying a knot before 28, not until i met my husband...
i reckon myself not a corny type .. i prefer to be cool talking about love.. i never believe any true love before, however i believe on "fate"....neither me or my husband would ever think about both of us meet, fall in love and now we promise to each other in the name of love..
Answering those questions above (how come i get married fast), i would say : i think this is what they called "love and fate".
and eventually people will ask how do u know he is ur mr right, or he is the one..? then my answers are: i know it's theory and non-sense but u can feel it one day when u meet "the one". for no reason u have a strong connection,and u feel u know him before u meet him,,, u just know the day when he asks u to marry him, u will say "yes", cos u can picture urself spending the rest of ur life with him... there will be no doubt, no regret and that's what i feel...
my husband and i met early of 2010. somehow we just know we are meant to be each other. everything seems so right and perfect. my life's never been better..i never thought i would met my soulmates in sydney, never.. but i did,, he is my bestfriend, my partner, my husband, my lovers and my life..
i know it sounds so bullshit or it just me... well, u can assume that,,,its ok how people think about it,, cos i believe everyone has different story how to find their love... but mine, pretty much more like fairytale...when the time and fate comes to us, here we are,, in a real world,,
most of indo's chinese or even chinese background, they decide to get married after having more than a year (even have to be more than 2 years).. sounds like it is a rule, if u don't follow the rule, society will wonder, is the girl pregnant? or aaah they will get divorce soon cos they get married in early age, and blah, blah... are u agree? i know u are agree, cos i did when i was in Indo...
yet, nothing wrong with the rule... since that is the only reason for people of getting married, knowing each other well, and so they get married. But then again, do u know so many couples get married cos they assume they have been in relationship for so long, so marriage is the only reason to be an excuse. marriage is a must. or even have u ever heard couples have been in 5-12 years relationship and they broke up, eventually they meet new partner and decice to get married in less than a year. well people, THAT's TRUE... that's what i called FATE....
of course i am not questioning those of couples who's been in relationship for ages and they are now married. hey, i am truely happy with it, i really do. cos i know they are meant to be since they just started the relationship. i can tell they are perfect for each other by witnessing their love....
what i'm trying to say are..we never know when and why we fall in love, when we will meet our MR. right or when we will get married. for me i always believe FATE... and time is not a problem.. how long u guys been together is not a serious matter. the thing is, how they love each other and trust each other...
i have some friends whose haven't met "the one" and i know deep in their heart, they are worried.. but i always believe they will one day.. its just the matter of time... and when the time has come, bam, they will never be separated....
or eventhough, they can't find theirs, what's wrong with being single.. as long as u happy...who cares,,,,?? one of my friend admitted she is lots happier being single rather than in relationship...
i think i sounds so grumpy and try to convince everyone with my opinion,, ups... im sorry about that... not i wanted too...
to sum up, i share a bit opinion here cos i just want my friends to be happy.. that, one day when the d day comes to them. they will proudly say "i am a happy and lucky bride or groom" like i do....
happy wedding to all my friends who already got one and will have one sooner.... i love u all,, and i believe u guys will be live happily ever after...
i want them to know that i am happy now, i finally found mine, and i do wish everyone will find theirs...
lots of my friends in Jakarta are questioning my wedding news..well, i hope in a good way,,, not much of them know exactly how my love story is... i cant blame them, when they were like " aaah,awei how come she get married so quick, or long time not hear from u and suddenly i got ur wedding news, and so on and so on"...
even my best friends backhome are wondering how could "an awei" end up so young to marriage life? well, i can't blame them for being sarcastic, assuming i was not so "ready to get married type of person"...
ok guys, i am not here trying to explain or expose my love life...
i am ok with such lots of question from them... the thing is they are my friends and i do believe they are happy for me as i do.. and it makes sense when they are thousand miles away from me.... i don't expect we always contact each other and know what's new about them..
however, i do want to tell a bit of my happiness news for them..and im proudly say i am getting married (in fact i am already legally)... and I'm very happy...
i believe most of my friends still remember the old me, a young girl who talk less about love, marriage and having a baby... that's true... i admit it... i've never pictured myself tying a knot before 28, not until i met my husband...
i reckon myself not a corny type .. i prefer to be cool talking about love.. i never believe any true love before, however i believe on "fate"....neither me or my husband would ever think about both of us meet, fall in love and now we promise to each other in the name of love..
Answering those questions above (how come i get married fast), i would say : i think this is what they called "love and fate".
and eventually people will ask how do u know he is ur mr right, or he is the one..? then my answers are: i know it's theory and non-sense but u can feel it one day when u meet "the one". for no reason u have a strong connection,and u feel u know him before u meet him,,, u just know the day when he asks u to marry him, u will say "yes", cos u can picture urself spending the rest of ur life with him... there will be no doubt, no regret and that's what i feel...
my husband and i met early of 2010. somehow we just know we are meant to be each other. everything seems so right and perfect. my life's never been better..i never thought i would met my soulmates in sydney, never.. but i did,, he is my bestfriend, my partner, my husband, my lovers and my life..
i know it sounds so bullshit or it just me... well, u can assume that,,,its ok how people think about it,, cos i believe everyone has different story how to find their love... but mine, pretty much more like fairytale...when the time and fate comes to us, here we are,, in a real world,,
most of indo's chinese or even chinese background, they decide to get married after having more than a year (even have to be more than 2 years).. sounds like it is a rule, if u don't follow the rule, society will wonder, is the girl pregnant? or aaah they will get divorce soon cos they get married in early age, and blah, blah... are u agree? i know u are agree, cos i did when i was in Indo...
yet, nothing wrong with the rule... since that is the only reason for people of getting married, knowing each other well, and so they get married. But then again, do u know so many couples get married cos they assume they have been in relationship for so long, so marriage is the only reason to be an excuse. marriage is a must. or even have u ever heard couples have been in 5-12 years relationship and they broke up, eventually they meet new partner and decice to get married in less than a year. well people, THAT's TRUE... that's what i called FATE....
of course i am not questioning those of couples who's been in relationship for ages and they are now married. hey, i am truely happy with it, i really do. cos i know they are meant to be since they just started the relationship. i can tell they are perfect for each other by witnessing their love....
what i'm trying to say are..we never know when and why we fall in love, when we will meet our MR. right or when we will get married. for me i always believe FATE... and time is not a problem.. how long u guys been together is not a serious matter. the thing is, how they love each other and trust each other...
i have some friends whose haven't met "the one" and i know deep in their heart, they are worried.. but i always believe they will one day.. its just the matter of time... and when the time has come, bam, they will never be separated....
or eventhough, they can't find theirs, what's wrong with being single.. as long as u happy...who cares,,,,?? one of my friend admitted she is lots happier being single rather than in relationship...
i think i sounds so grumpy and try to convince everyone with my opinion,, ups... im sorry about that... not i wanted too...
to sum up, i share a bit opinion here cos i just want my friends to be happy.. that, one day when the d day comes to them. they will proudly say "i am a happy and lucky bride or groom" like i do....
happy wedding to all my friends who already got one and will have one sooner.... i love u all,, and i believe u guys will be live happily ever after...
i want them to know that i am happy now, i finally found mine, and i do wish everyone will find theirs...
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
do u know what is ur dream?
i guess all of us have been questioning these question over and over again? what is my dream? what do i want to do? what do i like? what will my future be?? what should i do at the moment? and what the fuck am i doing here now??
well, bang...!!! everyone does it,,, me either,, and i'm in the crossroad thinking what will i do for next year....
I am a type of person who always plan and know what to do in this life.. cos i know life is beautiful and i dont want to waste my time too much for doing nothing... i pretty much always got what i want (with lots of effort and pray of course), and by the end of the year i like to make new year resolution, though sometimes i forgot what was it....
it's december now... less than a month to year 2011..
have u think about what will u do and what is ur plan for 2011???
what have u done in 2010?
are u happy with that?
have u done what u want in 2010?
have u made yourself and people surround u proud of u??
those question.. this question... aaarghh dont u think its annoying question...???? screw me...
but then again, hey.. there's nothing wrong with that... that makes u learn to be better person next year..
let me think of myself..... about 2010...
2010 is the best year for me (definitely i can say).. i graduated my master this year. I met my husband and get married.. i'd been on holiday for a month with my families and friends. i got new job and got new company experience.... and a lot of good things.. however, i lost couple of friends this year...>.<
that's mine and how about urs???pls carefully think about it..
whatever is mine or urs.. remember, that is part of our life and whether its good or bad.. life still goes on....
at the moment all that i can think are (excitedly and nervously), my wedding reception (which is in the next 15 days..) and my christmas plan.... u know as a bride u will feel nervous and worry of this and that... i do.. and so many things to think... yet i know it will flow smooth ( thanks to my husband for understanding me a lot... )
so what am i going to do on JANUARY??
here i am, i can't picture it enough... what job should i do??
FYI, i studied accounting (stupid master title) and communication. i've been doing different field of job since i was 20.. list are teacher, media relation, restaurant job, cafe job and office job..
teaching and kids were definitely my life,,,
working in media was halfly not in to me,,, (say no to working late and smokes everywhere,,,)
restaurant and cafe job are fun, (i like it, but hey.. i have 2 stupid titles on me)...
and office job,it was soo soo sooooo not me... (spending all ur time facing computers and files and papers..???!!!???!!??? get me out of here..)
so.. what should i do?
i want to do child care but i don't have certificate or any background...(FYI, every job has to be related to educational background)...
should i go for office job?? accounting job like my parents wish me to??? or maybe i should give it a try for years, who knows i can be good for that...(but i dont waaant)
then what? what do u want AWEI????????????????????
heaps of my friends have a better job than me, and some of them are succeed, their business is good or they get promotion..
well, it doesnt matter to me, cos indeed i envy even more to those friends who love their job and they feel good at... success is an extra...
i have a friend,, he is so popular and succeed, rich i think, and the thing is, this job is his life. he loves his job so much, he finds what he wants to do.. and i am so proud of him...
that's what i'm talking.. can i be like him.. i find what i want, and i will love it...
on the other hand, i have some friends who "has to do that job", cos their education background. yes, they are getting enough money, promotion, but they are not happy.
well..again.. my mum expects me to work in office, as an accountant, get so much money, and good reputation (in our culture, office job esp accounting is highly expected for elders).. does she ever think about my truly feelings? then again, i can't blame her, somehow she is always right, she forced me to learn chinese and english since i was young (i always hate it), and now i got so many easy things in returns... and i have to thank her..
what she tried to say is, u can't always follow what u want, sometimes u have to force urself, even u hate it, for ur good sake one day,,, she used her friend as her example, yes her friend admit it she didnt even like her job at the begining, eventually she is now getting higher and higher and she is used to it, so she is happy.
on the other hand, my friend was studying computer and accounting.. she knew it's not her life, she threw everything she had and studied from zero what she likes, and now she is so popular and succeed (through very long way), and the thing is SHE IS HAPPY....
having those versions, which one should i choose.... i am in the crossroads and i have limited times (i'm 26 next year, cmon im old)...
what is my dream,,,?? I still dont know...
All i know is i love kids, i love humanity service, i love to interact with people and i love travelling...
is there any job including all my criterias....
i haven't found it yet.. not now, maybe next year...
whatever my job will be.... one thing i should know... i have to be happy... and i live with that,,, i live from happiness, people's happiness.. when i see people happy, i am happy. my dream is simply just bring happiness to people..
so..have u found what is urs???? whatever it is,, u will be happy and good at it..... keep looking and keep working......
jiayouuuuuuuuu.. be happy!!!!!!!!!!
well, bang...!!! everyone does it,,, me either,, and i'm in the crossroad thinking what will i do for next year....
I am a type of person who always plan and know what to do in this life.. cos i know life is beautiful and i dont want to waste my time too much for doing nothing... i pretty much always got what i want (with lots of effort and pray of course), and by the end of the year i like to make new year resolution, though sometimes i forgot what was it....
it's december now... less than a month to year 2011..
have u think about what will u do and what is ur plan for 2011???
what have u done in 2010?
are u happy with that?
have u done what u want in 2010?
have u made yourself and people surround u proud of u??
those question.. this question... aaarghh dont u think its annoying question...???? screw me...
but then again, hey.. there's nothing wrong with that... that makes u learn to be better person next year..
let me think of myself..... about 2010...
2010 is the best year for me (definitely i can say).. i graduated my master this year. I met my husband and get married.. i'd been on holiday for a month with my families and friends. i got new job and got new company experience.... and a lot of good things.. however, i lost couple of friends this year...>.<
that's mine and how about urs???pls carefully think about it..
whatever is mine or urs.. remember, that is part of our life and whether its good or bad.. life still goes on....
at the moment all that i can think are (excitedly and nervously), my wedding reception (which is in the next 15 days..) and my christmas plan.... u know as a bride u will feel nervous and worry of this and that... i do.. and so many things to think... yet i know it will flow smooth ( thanks to my husband for understanding me a lot... )
so what am i going to do on JANUARY??
here i am, i can't picture it enough... what job should i do??
FYI, i studied accounting (stupid master title) and communication. i've been doing different field of job since i was 20.. list are teacher, media relation, restaurant job, cafe job and office job..
teaching and kids were definitely my life,,,
working in media was halfly not in to me,,, (say no to working late and smokes everywhere,,,)
restaurant and cafe job are fun, (i like it, but hey.. i have 2 stupid titles on me)...
and office job,it was soo soo sooooo not me... (spending all ur time facing computers and files and papers..???!!!???!!??? get me out of here..)
so.. what should i do?
i want to do child care but i don't have certificate or any background...(FYI, every job has to be related to educational background)...
should i go for office job?? accounting job like my parents wish me to??? or maybe i should give it a try for years, who knows i can be good for that...(but i dont waaant)
then what? what do u want AWEI????????????????????
heaps of my friends have a better job than me, and some of them are succeed, their business is good or they get promotion..
well, it doesnt matter to me, cos indeed i envy even more to those friends who love their job and they feel good at... success is an extra...
i have a friend,, he is so popular and succeed, rich i think, and the thing is, this job is his life. he loves his job so much, he finds what he wants to do.. and i am so proud of him...
that's what i'm talking.. can i be like him.. i find what i want, and i will love it...
on the other hand, i have some friends who "has to do that job", cos their education background. yes, they are getting enough money, promotion, but they are not happy.
well..again.. my mum expects me to work in office, as an accountant, get so much money, and good reputation (in our culture, office job esp accounting is highly expected for elders).. does she ever think about my truly feelings? then again, i can't blame her, somehow she is always right, she forced me to learn chinese and english since i was young (i always hate it), and now i got so many easy things in returns... and i have to thank her..
what she tried to say is, u can't always follow what u want, sometimes u have to force urself, even u hate it, for ur good sake one day,,, she used her friend as her example, yes her friend admit it she didnt even like her job at the begining, eventually she is now getting higher and higher and she is used to it, so she is happy.
on the other hand, my friend was studying computer and accounting.. she knew it's not her life, she threw everything she had and studied from zero what she likes, and now she is so popular and succeed (through very long way), and the thing is SHE IS HAPPY....
having those versions, which one should i choose.... i am in the crossroads and i have limited times (i'm 26 next year, cmon im old)...
what is my dream,,,?? I still dont know...
All i know is i love kids, i love humanity service, i love to interact with people and i love travelling...
is there any job including all my criterias....
i haven't found it yet.. not now, maybe next year...
whatever my job will be.... one thing i should know... i have to be happy... and i live with that,,, i live from happiness, people's happiness.. when i see people happy, i am happy. my dream is simply just bring happiness to people..
so..have u found what is urs???? whatever it is,, u will be happy and good at it..... keep looking and keep working......
jiayouuuuuuuuu.. be happy!!!!!!!!!!
Saturday, November 13, 2010
she's my mum
Guess i pretty much wrote a lot about myself before, this time i want to write a bit about my mum.
My mum is not kind of popular mum, not even a fashionable mum, like fancy dress, spend times for saloon, pedicure, menicure or even does not have any "friends activity". Not at all...
My mum is very humble and down to earth. she dresses up casual, and she doesn't put any make up. Instead of having some "mum" activity, she works hard and a lot. u will barely see her being lazy. yeah that's her. She's my mum,.....
my mum is 51, she looks young though (some people think i am her youngest sister rather than a daughter T_T)..she is average tall, 157 cm i guess, with average weight, curly hair and and very smooth skin (for her age it is amazing skin)..
she is middle kid, with young sister and older brother. My Grandpa passed away when she was 12, and my Grandma left us 2.5 years ago. My mum never finished her junior high school, however she is really smart and no one can ever beat her. she's been working since she was 15. she likes to travel a lot a lot a lot, sometimes i think is she having too much money, or she does like to travel.
okay, get bored already??? hahahaaa.. please don't be..u will know how great she is after u finish reading it,,,
move on, she met my dad when she was 21, then got married 2 years later. they were poor at that moments (that what they reckon) and my Dad was unemployment for a year. She worked instead of my Dad, until my Dad started his business from zero. I always believe my Mum is the key point of my Dad carreer. without her support, we will never be like today.
she still worked hard even she had us...she worked more than took care of us (well she had to, considering we were poor and had kids). Me and My younger brother were raised by Nanny til we were 4 i think. my sister was raised by my Grandma. I remember those days where i was in Kindergarten, i saw everyday my friends were picked up by their parents, and i was picked up by my maid or sometimes aunty. she never did, a bit sad but i never blame her. i know exactly how busy she was and she had to raise us. i think i wasn't that close with her at that age, yet , i tried so many ridiculous things to catch her attention (pretty much the same like ADD).
well, she teaches us a lot of things. a bit strict in a way of life and manner. i had to do some requirements when i went for my first overseas trip. i was 5 that time and i had to pack my own luggage, carry or push it, go to toilet, eat and dress by myself. if i think about it, it was a bit crazy, knowing these days, it is almost possible to expect a 5 year old kid to do those things. well me and my sis did it. i become more mature faster than my friends.
whenever our family and my cousins went out, we almost all the time behave well. we never jumped on people's sova, bed, taking someone's toys, yelling or crying loud. if we did, my mum would kick our ass i think as soon as we got in a car. and i feel thanking her for that, for raising us to be a good kid.
However, when i grew older, in my teenage years. i became very emotional person. that's when i (ever) hate being part of family. i admit i was so silly and dumb ass back then, well, everyone was, wasn't it??
i started to think that my mum never really love me (i was such an asshole that time). i always felt i was the least child to be loved. i spent most of my days at school, with friends and went home late. or sometimes we just met each other when we had dinner. i started to be jealous of my Brother. whenever he was hungry in late night, she would go to kitchen and cooked for him,( meanwhile when i was hungry, she asked me to eat instant noodles). i barely shared any stories with her, we argued sometimes as well. i remember, we argued and i swore at her, then she slapped my face. i didnt cry that time (i really wanted to, but i hold it), and she said in fact i wasn't her daughter and asked me to go away from home. still i didnt cry, all i did was, i offered my face to be slapped again. i still can picture her face that time, she was really upset and hurt of my disrespectful. I didnt cry in front of her, but deep down my heart was torn apart (yeah i cried so bad after).
the thing is, i don't cry easily when it comes to physical pain, got hit, felt down, or anything. it just when its about her i became so sensitive.. I never blame her ( i really never) when she almost lost me in shopping centre when i was kid; or she never hug us and kiss us or even say i love u to us(yet i find out being corny is just not her style);
the fact is ; she is the one i love the most. her word means everything to me. when she said that words, it left a scar in my heart.
then again when i got older,somehow i became closer with her.
i learnt to understand her more, instead of i expect she is the one to understand me.. whenever she has her mood, i prefer to be quiet, i am a lot more calm..i start to understand that being her, being mum is really hard. she has to take care of us, my Dad, my grandmas, and also her siblings. and somehow everything in the past become understandable.
i suddenly put her as my priority, i put her first in my 'go together list'.
i realize she got more wrinkles and dark circle on her eyes. I felt so sorry somehow. My mum got older. i try my best to company her anytime she needs company. i drive her. and i help her to do some house things (which i never did before, always think Mbak is the one who has to do it).. i start to share some problems with her, not much, just some, i don't want to make her worry. i always know she has too much things to think, why should i burden her. everything becomes easier. then i realize, i change, the way i think of her is change. and she...she still the same..she still a great mum like ever....
i can proudly say she is supermum..FYI, she never cries in front of us. i never see her cry..in my life for 25 years.never..
she is the best cook ever (for those who tried her dishes, u will agree), she cooks 3 times in a day with different dishes( all yummy vegetarian foods, i can't imagine be if i have to eat only those plants XP) ... she never push us to get stupid rank in school(lucky me).. most of my friends like her a lot, assuming my Dad is too scary (which is a bit true),, she fixes most of broken things at home, while my Dad just sit there, does nothing to help (T_T)..
It's a bit funny sometimes when i think back what are my mum's bad habits..
she is very typical not on time person. her time is like " oo ok i promise i wont be long, just 10 minutes, then she will be back like in 30 mins"..also, she changes her mind a lot, which made me upset a lot everytime i want to go out (I'm very stick to schedule). one thing make me laugh all the time is when i remember how she bargain when she goes shopping, it is like she can get almost half price than before. even when she went to Penang, the shop lady scolded her and said she was crazy with such a lower price. and my mum was like " u crazy, i'm not, ok??".. cool but made me laugh all the time, plus i feel sorry for the seller. they pretty much gave up with my mum and let her win... one thing made me embarrased was she cut the queue when she was in Sydney. and i was like "MUm,,,,,,,,,,,OMG...feel so ashamed, the ozy was just shake their head..T_T... and i will never win over her since she is really stubborn and smart... then again,whatever she does, she is my Mum..she is the best mum for me,,,
whenever i feel moody or if i am sick, i just need to call her, listen to her voice, and thats it, i will feel better. cos i know, she is the only person who know me really really well. no matter how shit my day is, how tired I'm with routines, i am blessed knowing i still have my Mum. even when she visits us like twice in a year, she will clean the house, cook for us, and not taking rest which she supposed to... (feel so bad now)..
now when she get older, she is tired easier.
in my life, she always be my inspiration with or without my awareness..
she affects me a lot... in return, i try to be a good person, i don't want to make her worry. once, i asked her what will make her happy about us. it's not to see us rich or success in carreer, but all she wants and makes her happy is if we live happily. simple but its true. as long as i can take good care of myself, i live healthy and happily, she will be very released.. she knows i am very happy now, i married to a very good guy. my husband is the first guy she likes a lot. and that makes me happy when i know my mum now is released, she trusted me to my husband...
for sure i know, one day there will be a day when we are separated, and i cant ever imagine if that day comes... that's why i keep reminding myself, to do whatever i can to make her happy. don't wait until all are too late..
my promise is i have to take her and my dad with my husband to travel one day...
again, our mum is the best... My mum is the one who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take....
she will always be loved wherever she goes... and whenever people ask me, who is she.. i proudly say THAT's MY MUM...
i love my mother...always....
My mum is not kind of popular mum, not even a fashionable mum, like fancy dress, spend times for saloon, pedicure, menicure or even does not have any "friends activity". Not at all...
My mum is very humble and down to earth. she dresses up casual, and she doesn't put any make up. Instead of having some "mum" activity, she works hard and a lot. u will barely see her being lazy. yeah that's her. She's my mum,.....
my mum is 51, she looks young though (some people think i am her youngest sister rather than a daughter T_T)..she is average tall, 157 cm i guess, with average weight, curly hair and and very smooth skin (for her age it is amazing skin)..
she is middle kid, with young sister and older brother. My Grandpa passed away when she was 12, and my Grandma left us 2.5 years ago. My mum never finished her junior high school, however she is really smart and no one can ever beat her. she's been working since she was 15. she likes to travel a lot a lot a lot, sometimes i think is she having too much money, or she does like to travel.
okay, get bored already??? hahahaaa.. please don't be..u will know how great she is after u finish reading it,,,
move on, she met my dad when she was 21, then got married 2 years later. they were poor at that moments (that what they reckon) and my Dad was unemployment for a year. She worked instead of my Dad, until my Dad started his business from zero. I always believe my Mum is the key point of my Dad carreer. without her support, we will never be like today.
she still worked hard even she had us...she worked more than took care of us (well she had to, considering we were poor and had kids). Me and My younger brother were raised by Nanny til we were 4 i think. my sister was raised by my Grandma. I remember those days where i was in Kindergarten, i saw everyday my friends were picked up by their parents, and i was picked up by my maid or sometimes aunty. she never did, a bit sad but i never blame her. i know exactly how busy she was and she had to raise us. i think i wasn't that close with her at that age, yet , i tried so many ridiculous things to catch her attention (pretty much the same like ADD).
well, she teaches us a lot of things. a bit strict in a way of life and manner. i had to do some requirements when i went for my first overseas trip. i was 5 that time and i had to pack my own luggage, carry or push it, go to toilet, eat and dress by myself. if i think about it, it was a bit crazy, knowing these days, it is almost possible to expect a 5 year old kid to do those things. well me and my sis did it. i become more mature faster than my friends.
whenever our family and my cousins went out, we almost all the time behave well. we never jumped on people's sova, bed, taking someone's toys, yelling or crying loud. if we did, my mum would kick our ass i think as soon as we got in a car. and i feel thanking her for that, for raising us to be a good kid.
However, when i grew older, in my teenage years. i became very emotional person. that's when i (ever) hate being part of family. i admit i was so silly and dumb ass back then, well, everyone was, wasn't it??
i started to think that my mum never really love me (i was such an asshole that time). i always felt i was the least child to be loved. i spent most of my days at school, with friends and went home late. or sometimes we just met each other when we had dinner. i started to be jealous of my Brother. whenever he was hungry in late night, she would go to kitchen and cooked for him,( meanwhile when i was hungry, she asked me to eat instant noodles). i barely shared any stories with her, we argued sometimes as well. i remember, we argued and i swore at her, then she slapped my face. i didnt cry that time (i really wanted to, but i hold it), and she said in fact i wasn't her daughter and asked me to go away from home. still i didnt cry, all i did was, i offered my face to be slapped again. i still can picture her face that time, she was really upset and hurt of my disrespectful. I didnt cry in front of her, but deep down my heart was torn apart (yeah i cried so bad after).
the thing is, i don't cry easily when it comes to physical pain, got hit, felt down, or anything. it just when its about her i became so sensitive.. I never blame her ( i really never) when she almost lost me in shopping centre when i was kid; or she never hug us and kiss us or even say i love u to us(yet i find out being corny is just not her style);
the fact is ; she is the one i love the most. her word means everything to me. when she said that words, it left a scar in my heart.
then again when i got older,somehow i became closer with her.
i learnt to understand her more, instead of i expect she is the one to understand me.. whenever she has her mood, i prefer to be quiet, i am a lot more calm..i start to understand that being her, being mum is really hard. she has to take care of us, my Dad, my grandmas, and also her siblings. and somehow everything in the past become understandable.
i suddenly put her as my priority, i put her first in my 'go together list'.
i realize she got more wrinkles and dark circle on her eyes. I felt so sorry somehow. My mum got older. i try my best to company her anytime she needs company. i drive her. and i help her to do some house things (which i never did before, always think Mbak is the one who has to do it).. i start to share some problems with her, not much, just some, i don't want to make her worry. i always know she has too much things to think, why should i burden her. everything becomes easier. then i realize, i change, the way i think of her is change. and she...she still the same..she still a great mum like ever....
i can proudly say she is supermum..FYI, she never cries in front of us. i never see her cry..in my life for 25 years.never..
she is the best cook ever (for those who tried her dishes, u will agree), she cooks 3 times in a day with different dishes( all yummy vegetarian foods, i can't imagine be if i have to eat only those plants XP) ... she never push us to get stupid rank in school(lucky me).. most of my friends like her a lot, assuming my Dad is too scary (which is a bit true),, she fixes most of broken things at home, while my Dad just sit there, does nothing to help (T_T)..
It's a bit funny sometimes when i think back what are my mum's bad habits..
she is very typical not on time person. her time is like " oo ok i promise i wont be long, just 10 minutes, then she will be back like in 30 mins"..also, she changes her mind a lot, which made me upset a lot everytime i want to go out (I'm very stick to schedule). one thing make me laugh all the time is when i remember how she bargain when she goes shopping, it is like she can get almost half price than before. even when she went to Penang, the shop lady scolded her and said she was crazy with such a lower price. and my mum was like " u crazy, i'm not, ok??".. cool but made me laugh all the time, plus i feel sorry for the seller. they pretty much gave up with my mum and let her win... one thing made me embarrased was she cut the queue when she was in Sydney. and i was like "MUm,,,,,,,,,,,OMG...feel so ashamed, the ozy was just shake their head..T_T... and i will never win over her since she is really stubborn and smart... then again,whatever she does, she is my Mum..she is the best mum for me,,,
whenever i feel moody or if i am sick, i just need to call her, listen to her voice, and thats it, i will feel better. cos i know, she is the only person who know me really really well. no matter how shit my day is, how tired I'm with routines, i am blessed knowing i still have my Mum. even when she visits us like twice in a year, she will clean the house, cook for us, and not taking rest which she supposed to... (feel so bad now)..
now when she get older, she is tired easier.
in my life, she always be my inspiration with or without my awareness..
she affects me a lot... in return, i try to be a good person, i don't want to make her worry. once, i asked her what will make her happy about us. it's not to see us rich or success in carreer, but all she wants and makes her happy is if we live happily. simple but its true. as long as i can take good care of myself, i live healthy and happily, she will be very released.. she knows i am very happy now, i married to a very good guy. my husband is the first guy she likes a lot. and that makes me happy when i know my mum now is released, she trusted me to my husband...
for sure i know, one day there will be a day when we are separated, and i cant ever imagine if that day comes... that's why i keep reminding myself, to do whatever i can to make her happy. don't wait until all are too late..
my promise is i have to take her and my dad with my husband to travel one day...
again, our mum is the best... My mum is the one who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take....
she will always be loved wherever she goes... and whenever people ask me, who is she.. i proudly say THAT's MY MUM...
i love my mother...always....
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